Manipulator do you know one?? I do...

Manipulation is a cruel game...Especially when the manipulator is someone in your own family. It is a shame because when that family member does truly need help although they expect help it does not come. It is like the boy who cried wolf. After one has been used and abused for so long one gets to the point where it is time to defend oneself.
The problem is as a Christian I feel guilty. I feel used but I also feel guilty. Praise the Lord that he knows me so well. He sent me a man who looks out for me so I do not get trampled. My wonderful husband looks out for me and I love him for that and so many more reasons.

We're here

Well we are here. Kevin, Tia and I. The funeral is over. We are in a two bedroom apartment on the third floor his company put us up in for a few months. . Tia isn't very crazy about the third floor, she always tries to go to the same apartment on the second floor when coming up stairs we have to coax her to come up the third flight of stairs. I have been trying to think why am I here. I thought it was to see my grandmother more but now that she is gone that is not it. I love that I am closer to my dad. I plan to spend time with him once or twice a month. My brother has needed moral support and I have been here for him but I am still three hours away. (which I thing is a good thing cause there can really be some drama in my family at times.) I start my new job on Monday. I am excited and nervous both.

Do ya wish sometimes God would write the plan out like a to do list for the day. I do! Then I would know where to go and what to do because left to my own advices I am lazy and would stay at home read, play on the computer or watch TV all day.
O well I know the plan will be revealed to me when the time is right or I can just stand back and be in awe of how God moves in our lives.

Long sad week

On Saturday July 16,2011 at 6:30pm my grandmother affectionately called Nana by everyone died. She had a very full life. She was 97 years old.

I love you with all my heart Nana! I will miss you more than words can say. <3

My Random Thoughts

First is I should really get up from in front of this computer and do something. I have a zillion things to do to get ready for move! The washer is washing the clothes. The dryer is drying the clothes. My sister has already gone shopping in my freezer and pantry. She hit the food lottery and went home with three garbage bags full of food. (My sister would be a whole big blog with in it self, I have no time to try to tackle her here and now! But hey she is my sister and I love her!)

I have a few things to pack up, but since we have not sold the house yet and his company set us up in a furnished apartment we do not have to pack up everything right now and we save on storage costs for now.

I do not know what to bring and what not to bring, I am bringing clothes, I know but I only have my Subaru Forrester and there will be three of us driving up to Ohio. SO there's not much room. So what is it I am really gonna need?? Computer definitely, flat screen in the bed room, yes! Griddle, my husband informed me.

What papers and stuff do I need to bring??? Papers for new job, physical (which is Tuesday with drug test. Just as I get a nasty allergic flare up and have to take narcotic cough medication! Had some on hand but was afraid to take it so went to The ER they gave me a new a script and documentation so I have that on hand and they do not think I am a drugee nurse). OK I am bringing some books with me cause I am a nerd like that. School and other books. Of course I will have my Bibles cause I need their wisdom every day!
(Had to take a little break my niece got stung by a bee and was freaking out we had to calm her she is ok now)

When is this house going to sell? Are we gonna loose our butts on it?? Should we rent it?? Do we want to rent it??

I have to do the floors dust mop, steam clean and shine to make it look pretty.

I did not get the cable modem turned in so I will have cable till I leave. I wanted to turn it in today but..I started coughing and took some cough medicine it knocked me out for a while then the office was closed. So now I will have to see if my friend whose son is cutting the grass will take it back for me I know she will, but I hate to bother her with that kind of stuff.

Bunch of craziness tomorrow. Taking my nephew to Sam's Club in the morning to get him a care pack for college. Then coming home going and taking my niece to Cypress Garden's cause she wants to see an alligator before we leave SC. Then we have to go to to the beach because who knows when we will get back here and be able to go to the beach again. I lived here for 15 years and most times took the beach for granted because it was there now I am moving away from it and I have to go before I leave.

O well time to move. I may be back posting before the Sunday move time but if not I will post when I get to Ohio.

Thought Provoking Thursdays

I am new to this today but here is the blurb from the hosting blog. Join in have some fun!
Welcome to Thought Provoking Thursdays where you are forced to engage your brain. Happy Thursday - can't wait to read your responses, so don't forget to link up.

1. Who is the strongest person you know?

The first thought that came to mind was my grandmother. We affectionately call her Nana. She is now 97 years old and lives in a nursing home which my aunt put her in. (long long and sad story) but anyhow she is a wonderful lady and I love her dearly. She was born in Canada while her family was migrating to USA in 1913. The family settled on a farm in the hills of Pittsburgh, PA. Met and married my grandfather an orphaned Irish immigrant. He was not always nice in fact he was abusive and an alcoholic all but the last ten years of his life. This wonderful woman worked and made a family of all of us. She had two children, and 9 grandchildren. All of us affectionately think of her house as home. We had Sunday dinners there every week and every holiday! It saddens me to see her now in a nursing home, but she is still my wonderful Nana and I spend as much time with her as I possibly can and will till the day she dies or I do.

2. What are you uncertain about?

My future. Today is my last day of work in Charleston, SC. My husband got a promotion which is taking us to Marion Ohio. I do have a job lined up nursing is a great career! I am moving to Ohio on Sunday, my husband is already there. His company is putting us up in a 2 bedroom 1bath furnished apartment for a few months. We have a house we have to sell here in Moncks Corner, SC. (If interested in moving here can check it out on realtor.com MLS # 113325) Any how I was distracted. But I don't know what the future holds in Ohio. Home is in Pittsburgh, PA so I will be closer to family, but I have lived outside of Charleston, SC for 15 years. I have many friends who are my family that I will leaving so this is bittersweet and uncertain.

3. What has life taught you in the last week?

Family is not always those who share your blood. Family can be friends who are near and dear to you, at work, church or anywhere.
Selling a house is not always easy.

3. What has life taught you in the last week?

Hodge Podge Wednesday

1. How has your hometown changed since you were a kid? What has changed most about the neighborhood you grew up in?
I grew up in two different towns in Pittsburgh PA. The first is right in the heart of the city a little neighborhood called Bloomfield. It was always Italian city of Pgh. Some of the faces and stores have changed but a lot has also stayed the same. The biggest change is my grandmother no longer lives in the house my mom grew up in. They moved in when my mom was very young and my mom and grandmother moved out about 4-5 years ago. I have not been back since. The second town is Duquesne PA. Duquesne was a mill town. Everyone worked at US Steel. In the 80s when all went bad with them the mill closed and so did the town. There is no any schools there. A huge memorial that was in front of the high school where we used to hang out is even gone. The ton is now a haven for drugs. It is very sad!

2. What song makes you laugh?
HMMM! song that makes me laugh??? Remember those old songs where they would ask questions like a reporter then put in other songs as the answer those always made me laugh. A few days ago I was listening to my satellite radio station on the 70s and heard the song the streak that also made me laugh.

3. Are you a fan of Harry Potter? Read the books? Seen any/all of the movies? Will you be standing in line somewhere close to midnight later this week? For those of you playing along today who live outside the US or UK is Harry Potter a phenomenon in your part of the world? Yes, I am a recent follower of Harry Potter. While at my daughter's house on the west coast she told me I just had to see them from the beginning. So she got me hooked. I will not be waiting in line to see will probably see it later.

4. If the truth hurts, will you tell a lie? Are we better off as a society in a world that allows no form of deception whatsoever?
I will not tell a lie. Once you start to lie a web of deception surrounds you and you soon forget what lies you are telling. It is much easier to remember the truth. I think we would be better off in a world without deception but also one would need tactfulness like you would not just tell someone for no reason I hate your hair or clothes or whatever.

5. What is your favorite 'sauteed in garlic and butter' food? Or garlic and olive oil if that makes you feel better.
You could saute anything in butter and garlic for me! I am an Italian girl at heart although there is also German and Irish in there> I spent most of my life from childhood on eating cooking from Italian grandmother.

6. Attending any reunions this summer/year? High school? family? Other? Do these events stir up excitement or dread?
Not that I know of I missed my high school reunion last summer, but did later meet with my best high school girlfriends. It was so much fun. We laughed all weekend!

7. Lilac, hydrangea, peony...pick one.
I do not know if I can pick one. Lilac smells so good and looks pretty on the tree. Hydrangeas are beautiful! Peony's bloom all summer long. Lets see I think I would say hydrangea.

8. Insert your own random thought here.
I only have two more days of work, today and tomorrow. They we pack up as much as my Subaru can hold and head to Ohio. After 15 years I will be leaving South Carolina to move closer to home. it will be wonderful to be able to visit my dad and my 97 year old grandmother when ever I want which will be lots! Have holidays with family watching my nieces and nephews opening presents or their kids opening presents on Christmas again. Instead of just me and Kevin on Christmas morning. So for next weeks Hodge Podge I will be an Ohio resident all I have to do to really move on is sell the house! Any one interested???
http://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/1102-Ansel-Dr_Moncks-Corner_SC_29461_M60281-94750?source=web

Gods Timing and Answered prayers

I have been going on and on and on about moving, new jobs, selling my house and all. So today I want to fill you in on the answered prayers surrounding this that extend farther out than me. O, I have had answered prayers also but God used my situation to help others and that is so COOL!

First prayers answered for me, As you know or may not know my husband's company has set us up in a furnished apartment in Marion, Ohio. My husband moved up there around the 20th of last month and started his new job. They have everything we need even TV and internet services. It is very nice!
MY husband is loving his new job and the guys are all being very nice to him. he is very happy he made the transition. I got a job starting on August 1 at Ohio University Medical Center at The James Cancer Hospital in the staffing pool. What that means is I am a full time employee but I do not work on any one specific floor. I float from floor to floor taking care of cancer patients. I love this! Floating allows one to see all the hospital units and work with many different patients without getting into the politics of the floor nursing. The only hold up was my nursing license which when I called the licensing board today told me my temporary license was issued today. I have 6 months to get back ground check in for permanent license (which I will do as soon as I get to Ohio). So everything is falling into place. this morning I got a random text message from a number I did not recognize stating they were praying for my house to sell and quoted 1 Thessalonians 5:24 which says The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it. (Interesting! Gave me reassurance this morning)

Now other prayers answered....... My sister Kellie has had a very hard life. She is a fairly new Christian and she has been having some problems lately. her and my 7 year old niece lives in the projects in PA where gun shots ring out almost every night. They have been trying to get out with section 8 and being tied up in tons of red tape. Every time she hears some good news she get tons more of red tape. She also has an older daughter who is in the stage of independence with her and her family and not always nice to her mom. This has made Kellie depressed. She told me she was sinking into a deep pit when I called, totally unknowingly< and asked her to come to SC with me for a few weeks while I was living alone here and hubby was in Ohio. Since leaving with me she has been reading her Bible every day. I had another book on Biblical issues I just happen to have unpacked in the room she is staying in. This book has really clicked with her and she told me she is feeling so much better since she came here and got into some light. My younger niece, the 7 year old, is having a ball! She has decided her Aunt Becky, me, should buy her one present a day! LOL! I don't know about that but we are having fun!

My sister Pam has been wallowing in her situations which are way to complicated to get into but one of the main problems was no car. Kellie came down started talking to them, her and her husband, last weekend they got a car a 2001 PT Cruiser! Very much an answered prayer. (And to think I have been talking to her about that for more than a year! HMMM!)

These are just two of the prayers answered that I know of right now but WOW!!!! Isn't our God AMAZING!!!!!

1. What is the most useful book in your house?

I would have to say my Bible. It really does give me life lessons and help me with issues I am having. We as a church are reading through Act right now and it has really helped. I do have my favorite books in the Bible also. Esther is great!

2. What's worse-being too hot or too cold?

I am actually not a fan of either. I live in air conditioning and furnace. But if I had to choose I think it may be cold because I am always hot. But I do not like snow!

3. Share something that made you smile this past weekend.

I spent the weekend with my son and his family and all of them always make me smile especially my grandsons. I loved it when my two year old Asher ran out from the shower yelling when I got there "I need to see MEMAW!" wrapped his arms around my legs then as I bent down gave me a wonderful kiss and hug!

4. How do you like your hamburgers? Or don't you?

Well done with ketchup. Heinz ketchup.

5. What's your summer beach read? If it's not summer in your part of the world then tell us what book you're reading in front of the fire while sipping hot cocoa.

This summer along with studying for for oncology (cancer) certification I am reading Fear No Evil from Robin Caroll. So far very good although I haven't really gotten into it too much yet.

6. How was your birthday celebrated when you were a kid?

I really do not remember much about my childhood. I do remember we always had a cake at my grandmothers after Sunday dinner. I remember one birthday party when I was in 6th grade where we played Spin the Bottle! LOL!

7. What's something that is totally uncool that you love anyway?

I love to ride the swings in the play ground. I do not care if I am there with grands, nieces, nephews or my self!

8. Insert your own random thought here.

Well moving day is getting close. I have 7 days left at work and 13-14 days left in SC before I move to Marion, OH. I have bittersweet feelings. I will love being closer to family in Pittsburgh PA but hate leaving good friends here. I do not want to loose the friendships!
Soon you will not need to hear my saga of moving any more till we sell the house and find a new one in OH

WOOOHOOOO!!

I was offered and excepted a job at The James Hospital at The Ohio University Medical Center!!!!
I start on August 1. I am also getting a $5.00 raise!!! The benefits are wonderful!!! I can move to Ohio now!!!!
Have you noticed I am so excited!!